I'm Not An Object For Your Amusement
In this new release by infamous R&B artist R. Kelly entitled “I Admit” he details his troubles and battles during his career. Is it just me or does it seem like R. Kelly never received any real consequences for his actions? He’s been accused of several highly controversial acts, most of them sexually related including the infamous video of him engaging in “Golden Showers” with a young girl, having a sex cult, and abusing his ex-wife. Yet Kels still has the audacity to play victim? To be honest, I’m not surprised, this is the monster we’ve created. We stood by after all the allegations and continued to praise this man as the “King of R&B.” He thinks he’s so invincible that now he has decided to release a 19 minute track admitting to things we’ve known about for years. The worst part about it is he’s not admitting it and being apologetic about the actions, but instead it seems like he is justifying or trying to condone his behavior. It’s like the guilt that should have eaten away at him is nowhere to be found. In this track, he Sings of liking "all the ladies, that's both older and young ladies," following it up with: "But tell me how they call it pedophile because that (expletive) is crazy,” and following up with later insulting lines like “parents be pushing their kids in my face and get mad when it don’t go their way.” He’s throwing blame on everyone else but himself because it’s easier to depict a picture of “poor me” instead facing your truth. If not taking the blame wasn’t enough part of the song sounds like he is desperately trying to seek validation from his antagonist counterparts. This goes deeper than R.Kelly. It stems from our society as a whole. We are so use to living in a society where Rape Culture is so normalized that we are numb to it when it is right in front of our faces. Rape Culture is a sociological concept for a setting in which rape is pervasive and normalized due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality. Rappers, singers even the President of the United States openly talk about taking advantage of women. Everyone takes part in the culture whether it’s participating in Trump’s disgusting movement of men thinking it’s okay to “grab her by the (explicit),” or just rapping Ja Rule’s line “I keep em drugged up off that ecstasy.” Rape culture is disguised in the music we listen to and movies/TV we watch allowing people to think that is normal. So many people don’t even realize it. An old interview of Charlamagne Tha God surfaced where he openly admits to raping his now wife the first time they had sex. “I keep telling’ y’all. I’ve told y’all this over and over. It’s a lot of things guys did especially when we were young that were rape that we just didn’t consider rape. I’m married to my wife. Me and my wife dated for a whole year, she would not give me no (explicit). Me and my wife hung out one Saturday night and she got sloppy drunk and passed out in my momma’s house and I got that (explicit). She was (explicit) me back and all that but she was really drunk. I asked her yesterday, ‘Yo, did I rape you the first time we ever had sex?’ And she goes, ‘I mean in hindsight, yeah…” Charlamagne’s comment could be all for publicity because he knows the platform he has and he usually uses it to speak recklessly but did it have to be at the expense of women? He used his voice to once again degrade and disrespect women by speaking so calmly about taking advantage of women. Some may argue how is it rape if that is his wife and that question itself is part of the problem. If anyone isn’t coherent enough to verbally consent to sex it is INDEED rape, wife or not. He later apologized and tried to clear up his comment. The apology is to save face at this point but one can only hope he truly understands the platform he has and uses it to make better decisions in the future. Some may stand behind R Kelly and feel that he was never convicted or feel bad because of the ridicule he receives but if he never put himself in those situations he wouldn’t be facing backlash. It’s just so convenient that now that he’s ticket sales are plummeting he puts out a song to explain and defend all the wrong he’s done. To make people feel sympathy? Maybe. It’s ultimately up to you if you choose to stand with or against R Kelly but I know one thing if people don't start to take responsibility for their actions and be held accountable we'll continue to live in a never ending cycle of normalized rape culture.